Comments on: How a collar relates to our dominant/submissive relationship… http://www.socialperversion.com/2008/04/20/how-a-collar-relates-to-our-dominantsubmissive-relationship/ Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 07 Feb 2012 04:22:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: jimbms http://www.socialperversion.com/2008/04/20/how-a-collar-relates-to-our-dominantsubmissive-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-1851 jimbms Mon, 09 Aug 2010 10:03:50 +0000 I fully agree with the above, 27 years ago myself and my mistress was married first in the morning we did the formal vanilla bit with the exception she removed the obey part and I included it in, the vicar was not happy. that night we did our lifestyle marraige which involved me being collered, I have worn this with few exceptions for every day since, only exceptions was when she found new ones (we still have the original in a case) or when I needed surgery and a MRI scan. we are not mistress/slave she is dominant I submissive in a female led marraige. In all these years we have remained faithful and loving to each other and not felt the need to do the making me dress in her stuff or her going out to get lovers thing, being the submissive partner does not mean you have to have no balls, in fact quite the opposite. I feel that some people wrongfully classify subversive men as weak men. Somewhere along the line, they have been wrongly told that submission in a man is weak. It is my opinion that we are the strongest of men. As a truly submissive man I am a protector, a servant, a planner, as well as a graceful reflection of my Dominant Partner. I am conscious that my appearance is reflection of her and therefore endeavour myself to always be well put together. I am a silent reflection of her strength and a supporter of her dreams and goals. . As a submissive man I act with dignity, in fact I act with the dignity of the best butler…anticipating her needs because I know her. I know she drinks a cup of tea before bed and strive to have it waiting for her when she retires. I know after a long day she will need a foot rub and at weekend a massage so I have learned to do these. I know after a bad day she want to have someone to moan and complain to without having an opinion or interruption, so I do that. I will always take her word as law and never question it and will always do as she asks. I strive to posses the best of manners, and what I mean by this goes way deeper than what the general society believes. I go shopping with her and carry her bags, I always open the door for her, I pull out her chair every time, no matter the location. I stand when she leaves the dinner table, even when we are alone. I realise that my manners are a reflection of my deep gratitude for her. As a submissive man I am a gentleman first. I am honourable. I don’t act out in order to seek what might be an enjoyable sexual favour or punishment. In fact, a punishment is never enjoyable; it’s a failing to please my Mistress. And it’s never fun. The fun comes not only from the deep service I provide, but also when I am alone with my Mistress and a scene evolves. She knows me well and because I am indispensible to her, she will make every fantasy I have come true. When I am ill she cares for me deeply she forbids me to do a thing, it is at those moment I know how much she appreciates me. She values me tremendously. I am not less than her, but an extension of her. I am invaluable because even though I am submissive to her, I am not submissive to everyone. I serve her and only her (mind you we have had a little fun in that with some of her female friends occasionally as she has a little bi tendency which I am happy to indulge her with), and in that service comes a sense of joy and purpose. It also defines me as a man, a strong man, a submissive man. In conclusion like yourselves we regard my wearing of the collar as a lifestyle choice with great meaning to each other, like yourselves we do not play at it on weekends or clubs this is our life choice. I fully agree with the above, 27 years ago myself and my mistress was married first in the morning we did the formal vanilla bit with the exception she removed the obey part and I included it in, the vicar was not happy. that night we did our lifestyle marraige which involved me being collered, I have worn this with few exceptions for every day since, only exceptions was when she found new ones (we still have the original in a case) or when I needed surgery and a MRI scan. we are not mistress/slave she is dominant I submissive in a female led marraige. In all these years we have remained faithful and loving to each other and not felt the need to do the making me dress in her stuff or her going out to get lovers thing, being the submissive partner does not mean you have to have no balls, in fact quite the opposite.
I feel that some people wrongfully classify subversive men as weak men. Somewhere along the line, they have been wrongly told that submission in a man is weak. It is my opinion that we are the strongest of men.
As a truly submissive man I am a protector, a servant, a planner, as well as a graceful reflection of my Dominant Partner. I am conscious that my appearance is reflection of her and therefore endeavour myself to always be well put together. I am a silent reflection of her strength and a supporter of her dreams and goals. .
As a submissive man I act with dignity, in fact I act with the dignity of the best butler…anticipating her needs because I know her. I know she drinks a cup of tea before bed and strive to have it waiting for her when she retires. I know after a long day she will need a foot rub and at weekend a massage so I have learned to do these. I know after a bad day she want to have someone to moan and complain to without having an opinion or interruption, so I do that. I will always take her word as law and never question it and will always do as she asks.
I strive to posses the best of manners, and what I mean by this goes way deeper than what the general society believes. I go shopping with her and carry her bags, I always open the door for her, I pull out her chair every time, no matter the location. I stand when she leaves the dinner table, even when we are alone. I realise that my manners are a reflection of my deep gratitude for her.
As a submissive man I am a gentleman first. I am honourable. I don’t act out in order to seek what might be an enjoyable sexual favour or punishment. In fact, a punishment is never enjoyable; it’s a failing to please my Mistress. And it’s never fun.
The fun comes not only from the deep service I provide, but also when I am alone with my Mistress and a scene evolves. She knows me well and because I am indispensible to her, she will make every fantasy I have come true. When I am ill she cares for me deeply she forbids me to do a thing, it is at those moment I know how much she appreciates me.
She values me tremendously. I am not less than her, but an extension of her. I am invaluable because even though I am submissive to her, I am not submissive to everyone. I serve her and only her (mind you we have had a little fun in that with some of her female friends occasionally as she has a little bi tendency which I am happy to indulge her with), and in that service comes a sense of joy and purpose. It also defines me as a man, a strong man, a submissive man.
In conclusion like yourselves we regard my wearing of the collar as a lifestyle choice with great meaning to each other, like yourselves we do not play at it on weekends or clubs this is our life choice.

]]> By: cmnf http://www.socialperversion.com/2008/04/20/how-a-collar-relates-to-our-dominantsubmissive-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-1465 cmnf Wed, 09 Jun 2010 21:41:51 +0000 I agree, extra posts like this 1! I agree, extra posts like this 1!

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