A new collar for kitten…
On CollarMe.com and Bondage.com I see lots of people asking what collar they should get for their submissive. I feel that right away these people are asking the wrong question. The question is not what collar should you get but what sort of collar is appropriate to your environment and community. Some people have the advantage of living in large forward thinking communities where a 3 inch thick band of metal around a persons neck would draw nothing more then a quick glance, others live in small religious communities where anything that even looks like a choker would draw lots of looks and questions.
The dilemma that I had while choosing what material would encircle surrender4love’s neck is the social environment we live in. As much as I would have loved to wrap a thick piece of metal with a huge padlock around her neck, proclaiming to the world that she was owned in more ways than just in a relationship, it did not fit into the type of community we live in. I choose to go with a thick spiral chain necklace from Bico Las Vegas (chosen and placed on her neck while we were visiting Vegas on a holiday). I removed the clasp from the necklace and replaced it with some small chain links in the back. There are times when we go out of town and I want her to wear a collar that is thick and draws attention, during these times I place her pink “love” leather collar or the red/brown thick leather collar around her neck.
Already I can see the comments regarding my choice of using the vernacular “her collar” so let me clear that up before we continue: The collar belongs to me but I do not wear the collar. I choose to say “Her Collars” because they are collars that are to be worn only by her. Only I may place the collars around her neck and only I may remove them, she never has any say as to the collar she will wear on a given day, the decision and say are mine.
Recently I was searching for a new collar as the old one has become a tad weak in the back, the years of yanking and pulling have taken their toll on the metal. As much as I would love to say that I chose one of the excellent Pattern Wire Collars from Chaotic Creations or a Turian Stainless Steel Slave Collar from the House of Collars, this is not the case. I chose to make a collar out of metal cable and a spacer with some small screws drilled in to hold everything together. I chose the handmade approach not because I am cheap but because I felt that for a while wearing a collar that draws attention will deepen and enhance her service, something that is clear and visible to those in the outside world will keep her very conscious of her status in the relationship.
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In the future weeks perhaps she will receive a nice pretty collar, only time and service will tell. How the local community takes to her new collar is another issue altogether, this is really something that truly looks like a collar and is hard to mistake for a necklace. I am going out on a limb considering the religious social setting that exists around us every day but its something that I feel needs to be done.
~~conquer4love~~
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