Comments on: I am a man, I am allowed to be unreasonable…

By: surrender4love

surrender4love — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 07:13:34 +0000

Thank you, Wishful Newbie You make a very good point about some of the males growing up with today’s TV shows. It’s rare now to see men depicted as anything but bumbling idiots. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard women describe their men as trainable, only to get into the relationship and realize they were already “trained” to be taken care of like one of the kids.

Best of luck to you If you need to chat let me know.

By: Wishful Newbie

Wishful Newbie — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 17:09:11 +0000

I would have thought you would be tar and feathered for your article as well, but as I read it, your points make nothing but sense. It made me think of the other end of things. How some men are seeing the bumbling idiots displayed on TV and the strong females and so some of them are growing up and believing they can be as lazy as they want to be and their wife/girlfriend will be the mothering figure and take care of everything. I wish that wasn’t the case in my marriage but it is. I would like the wheel taken from me.

By: BloodLustDaddy

BloodLustDaddy — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 07:22:24 +0000

doubleknot, thank you so much for your kind words… I was really expecting to be attacked when I posted this so I am happily surprised that it has been received the way I intended it.

Jane, thank you for stopping by to read and comment!

I do have to argue with you concerning point two.

2. Women are pathological liars
This falls in direct line with women being manipulative… I am not saying they are born this way it is just taught to them from a very early age. It is impossible to be manipulative without also being a liar.

I have determined to remove lying and manipulation from my life… spanking quickly resolves the issue and makes it known that I am not a musical instrument that can be played.

~~BloodLustDaddy~~

By: slave jane

slave jane — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 06:47:38 +0000

1. Women are manipulative
YES WE ARE! lol We are. I learned from my mother, as she did from hers..the right way to get what you want. Ok, not the right way, but the basics of manipulations. Fact is, it’s hard to brake these habits. A man needs to be taught how to recgonise this manipulations to steer clear of them or atleast to confront them.
I know I have manipulated Seth into doing things the way I want them. Honestly I don’t think I feel bad about it. But he never has been able to see it when I do it. I have gone as far as to tell him this is the way I do it. I would rather not be able to get away with it. I hope to set a better example for my daughter. That she should speak her mind and not hold her feeling in. Though I do do it alot. Sometimes it’s just not worth the fight.

2. Women are pathological liars
This one…hmmm…This one takes some thought. I don’t think I am a pathological liar. I have lied. But it had reasoning behind it. I am dominate, Seth is not. As much as I would like him to be…it’s not going to happen. I have lied that…no there is no money, when in fact there is, but if he knew that he would spend it on something frivolous.
I do keep my emotions farely hidden. I didn’t used to. But lessons through life. Lessons through my marriage have tought me that..sometimes it is best not to cry or show your feelings.

3. Women both seek out dominant males and fear a dominant male
I do fear dominate males. I have been taught from a young age, every thing should be equal and men are stronger and..da dada..I don’t believe it now. But I have had my share of abuse from men who were dominate or were trying to pretend to be dominate.
I do seek them out..yet I never seem to find them. As I said I am the boss here. There is so much weight on my shoulders right now…that if I had a MAN in my life, it wouldn’t be so bad.

In my childhood, my father worked everyday (still does) to provide for me, my sis and mother. She had the option to work if she wanted. She kept the house clean and had dinner done as soon as he walked in. He was the MAN. HE took care of what needed to be done for our family. I envy him. In this marriage, in this relationship I am playing his role. I am the man.

I like your article. And I agree with above post..you should write a book about this.
It is nice to know that what seems the perfect couple are not perfect. Cause nothing is. There will always be the power struggles and spats.

With care

~~jane

By: doubleknot

doubleknot — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 00:01:33 +0000

I found myself smiling as I finished reading this entry.

My Master too, is an “unreasonable man”. His profile stated as much where I found him stating “…I am a very Dominant, very me-oriented male…” among other things.

My Owner knows exactly who he is and what he wants. I have never been in a relationship such as ours before, ie, one in which my manipulation didn’t work.

In fact, I never even realized until being His that I was so in the habit of trying to manipulate the men (or people) in my life in general and as a matter of course. It just never occurred to me I was doing it.

But continually bumping into that wall of his will has left me aching from the growing pains of this new dynamic.

I am not sure if it is upbringing, society, or my own fiercely strong will that has left me with this legacy but the strategies I once found useful have all but come crashing down around me as I learn to live within the power exchange I so craved.

It’s actually very wonderful and refreshing when I sit back, put my hands firmly in my lap, and allow that wheel to be taken permanently from me as He steers us precisely where he wishes us to go.

Thank you for your article. You might consider expanding on these thoughts and writing a book. Great stuff here. Great food for thought. Thanks again.