The requirement of spirituality….
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I think it is time I delve a bit deeper into what it is that makes our relationship so special. BDSM, D/s, M/s, Bondage, Pet Play, Blood Play, Bruises and ropes are just a small part of what makes our relationship so special. All of the above are fun in and of themselves but both of us are very “self aware”, our relationship is not just about blood, beatings and sex… its also about spirituality.
Many people are happy and content to just be slapped around and have a cock shoved down their throat, if this was the depth of my interests I live in a state where prostitution is completely legal and you can get any kink filled for the right amount of money. My life and relationship has a major focus on self-improvement and spirituality so the aggressive and violent stuff is just a bonus not the end goal.
We find the spirituality of BDSM to complement deeply our views on things like Green Living, Chakra Energy, Paganism (not Wiccan), Health Awareness and improving ourselves through understanding of our strengths and weaknesses. Anyone wishing to join in with us must be willing to look into themselves and be comfortable with what they find.
Keep reading to find out what sort of people are unacceptable for more than sexual play and why they are unacceptable…
I am a man who believes that through self-improvement on a spiritual level we are able to face our fears, realize our desires and find happiness on even the darkest days. My time is valuable and I don’t have the time needed to improve someones view of themselves. I do not have the time to build up the self-esteem of someone who joins the BDSM lifestyle, in order to validate their own depreciated view of themselves. The “Pretty Princess” also needs not apply. I have no interest in breaking down false walls you have created to insulate yourself from your feelings and how others view you. If you feel that your pussy feels so good that you will be able to control me you are highly mistaken. There are many pussies out there who are able to offer the respect I demand and I have yet to meet a pussy that was worth the attitude, take your “spoiled brat slave” persona and go fuck yourself. Miss “I demand respect” slave is another persona that can go hang yourself, our relationship is built on respect and the fact that you have been allowed into the relationship shows that I respect you. When I tell you to get on all fours and lick out my asshole it does not mean I don’t respect you. However, if you get upset because I haven’t taken you to meet my parents or don’t take you out to a nice dinner once a week it’s a case of you mistaking the power your pussy has on me. When you agree to wear my collar and call me master, the vanilla rules no longer apply. Don’t expect me to treat you by the superficial rules that I refuse to live by. I am also not interested in the “Punish me” Catholic dropouts. My place is not to punish you for your past sins, I am not your Saviour and if you expect my belt to ease your way into heaven then I am the wrong person to deal with; you need to speak to a priest, not a master.
I respect a person who kneels before me, displays my collar on their neck and allows me to control their life. Wearing my collar is signing on for the whole gambit and I would be disrespecting you and myself if I did not embrace who I am and the life that you agree to live. If you find enjoyment in being a slave or a submissive and I treat you like a vanilla girlfriend would that be respectful to either of us? If you agree to be a slave then do not get all bent out of shape when I treat you that way. If you agree to be a submissive do not get upset when I treat you as a submissive… this is not the vanilla world and if you want a boyfriend then get your ass out of my house and go to the bar.
This is where the spirituality comes in: if you are someone who is healthy, comfortable with your body and yourself as a person then I am interested in meeting you. Someone who is healthy, happy, content, confident and not poisoned by a false sense of entitlement is someone who I can connect with, someone who is interested not just in the pain and pleasure but in improving themselves spiritually. If you have holdups in regards to your sexuality, body, health or personality how do you expect to find happiness? These are all things that stand directly in our path to happiness. There is nothing as beautiful as the full body orgasm of a woman who has shed all of her insecurities and inhibitions. All of our insecurities effect our sexuality because we are sexual beings, if we fear ourselves, our bodies, our thoughts or what others think about us we are sacrificing our own happiness and sexuality for false ideals established in us by society. I want someone who is willing and able to look into themselves and work to resolve these underlying issues, the person does not have to have reached the acceptance point yet but they must be willing to work on it and not be afraid of what they find.
Someone who joins us will be expected to speak at length about their childhood, past relationships and insecurities. This is something that will happen and it takes a very special person to be able to do this. Our spirituality includes meditation, Chakrology, self-awareness and self-improvement. We do not expect you to worship our gods as that is a personal matter but we do beleive heavily in the “Id, ego and Super-Ego” and “BodyMind” connection described by Sigmund Freud and John Money. Sexuality and spirituality go hand in hand and if you are unable to truly look at yourself spiritually, emotionally or physically then you will be unable to handle the depth of our relationship.
For someone coming into our lives for more than play you should know that I am a demanding man. Expect to be treated as a slave or submissive, expect to face your inner demons and expect to be held to a path of spirituality, our relationship is about personal growth and we will not allow someone who is afraid of themselves and stagnant in their personal growth to limit where we are going.
~~conquer4love~~
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