Now, I know a lot of people are going to disagree. We may get a bunch of comments from people saying that just because they are female that it doesn’t make them prey.  If you do disagree, that’s okay and that’s your opinion. However, this is our blog and I’m the one doing the writing from my perspective. Back to my topic…

I don’t like that I am prey. It’s not something that I am comfortable with. I don’t like that people of both sexes try to lie and manipulate me. I don’t like that the men I meet picture having sex with me; that they imagine bending me to their will. No, I don’t like it all but regardless it is true. I am prey. I am creature that others prey upon.

I notice it now more that I’m older. Since Daddy pointed out that I was prey and shared his theory on the subject, it has helped me to be more proactive about getting away from predators in the outside world.

This past weekend is an excellent example of what life can be like when you notice that your prey. We stayed at a casino and there was some time where I was left alone. I was followed, approached, propositioned and even gave all my smokes away. I even ended up giving lady ten dollars to leave me alone. I’m not proud of it but that particular woman had followed me for over an hour and I had just had enough. I gave her the money, she sat down to play and I made my break for it.

When Daddy and I got back together, all of it stopped. Well, one predator made a bee line for me and Daddy stepped in front of me and the guy turned and went the other direction. The rest of the evening though we were free to enjoy each others company. It seems the protective vibe he gives off works, I’m not sure how but it does and for that I am very grateful.

Yes, I am prey but that also makes me cherished and protected. It’s the latter that makes the rest of it bearable.

One of the reasons that the relationship Daddy and I have works so well is because we both keep in mind that the other one is a human being. As human’s we have mood swings, good days and bad days. We are also two different people with different personality quirks. Some of those quirks are based on gender and some of those quirks are based on just personality alone.

Sometimes, as a submissive female and a babygirl I need more attention at different times than I normally do. Sometimes Daddy is unable to give that attention. When I start to feel that way, I simply let him know “I need some attention, I’m feeling insecure” and if he has time then he will give me that attention but if he does not have the time then I have to accept that and self sooth. This is just an example to highlight the main point and that point is: DaddyDom’s are Human Too.

DaddyDom’s, just like regular Dom’s are human and as such they can only do so much in a day and still survive in our society. They are not super human people who can “fix” everything that the babygirl or submissive wants them to fix.

As a babygirl, I choose to give Daddy power over me and more than that he becomes responsible for me as well. That’s a lot of pressure for someone to take on. Some of you out there who have kids know what I’m taking about. Being responsible for and to another human being is not easy. There is the providing for, nurturing, taking care of, worrying, following up on and protecting. Sometimes it can all be too much, to overwhelming more so if he’s had a hard day at work.

This is something about Daddy that I honor. I don’t press or push when he’s had a bad day. I try to control my own emotional needs sometimes to give him some breathing space. I respect him as not just my Daddy, but as a man with responsibilities trying to do the best that he can in today’s world. I see him as a human being not a saviour.

Many submissive males and females, even one’s with submissive personality traits in a non-lifestyle relationship, have a tendency to believe that just because they give another person power over them that the DaddyDom, Dom, Top or what have you will automatically make everything better. And in some ways they can but there are many things that the dominant one in a relationship cannot do and those are as follows.
DaddyDoms Cannot:

1. Make you happy, they can help you work on it but they alone are not responsible for your sole happiness. You are.

2. Turn you into someone you are not. If you have no idea who you are as a person, then take the time you need to figure it out before you enter into any relationship.

3. Solve every issue you may have with friends/family/co-workers. At some point socially you are on your own and he cannot be everywhere at all times just for you only when you need him to be.

4. Fix your self-esteem. Again, they can help you work on it but how you feel about yourself is ultimately up to you and no matter how many times you’re told that you are beautiful, the only one who can believe it is you.

5. Give you everything you want when you want it. Being a babygirl means having innocent qualities and needing to be nurtured in an adult relationship. It does not give you a free ride to whine and act out like a brat when you don’t get what you want like a toddler would.

These are just some basic areas where a DaddyDom will fail if those are things that you expect from one.

I know that there are many men who struggle with the power balance we are supposed to have in today’s world, just as many women do. Gender does not automatically make one a dominant or submissive person as it can be based on personality type alone. More and more we have choice and freedom from traditional gender roles in our modern world and that’s a very beautiful thing … but before I skitter off on different topic, let’s get back to this article.

The article is written by woman for the site and I think that all around she did a good job with the subject material. She does cover the issue of male/female equality a bit and I will admit that I don’t fully agree with the entire piece but on the topic of a submissive woman I think she was spot on. Here is an excerpt:

It’s important to keep in mind, however, that women who don’t mind relinquishing their power in the bedroom and in the relationship are doing this consciously; they are willingly abandoning themselves to their man’s desires and letting him call the shots. This does not make them weak, intellectually inferior or less deserving of respect than men. – Women’s Sexuality Consultant

That part I totally agree with. Also, I feel that it is an important statement. There are many times when I’ve come across a D/s situation with males and females on either side where the Dom asserts themselves in way that clearly shows that they view the submissive as inferior. Worse yet are the situations where the Dom thinks force is the only way to go and that the submissive is only a subbie when they only do things their not actually willing to do.

A submissive in the lifestyle can enjoy various types of play. Some forms can be really degrading but at the end of the day, even in a 24/7 lifestyle relationship the submitting is done because the submissive person allows it to be done. If the submissive does not submit and is forced that’s when abusive territory is entered.

Some of you out there thanked us for putting into words either what you were looking for, or for creating an explanation for the lifestyle that you were already living. On the other side of that perspective, some of you were upset that we equated a 1950’s style home life to wanting to reverse the sexual revolution that started the first wave of feminism.

I appreciate all comments to anything that I write. Even comments that are of a different opinion because various views on topics is what keeps conversation going. It is also a great way to practice being open-minded and to remain open so that we can all learn from each other.

Myself, I’m a feminist. One would not think that automatically based on the lifestyle that I choose to live but the keyword there is “choose”. I can stand behind what the feminist movement first stood for but not for what the movement has become. I’ll get more into that in a post that focuses on that topic.

I’ll also get more into what living the DaddyDom/babygirl dynamic means for both Daddy and I in another post, dedicated to that topic.

As with all posts that we publish here at SocialPerversion, everything is how it relates to us and the way we choose to live. Personal opinion will be discussed but that in no way means any of what we write about is the only way to do things. All of us have choice and personal preferences. It’s the variations in how we all live our lives that makes things interesting.

"Here, Daddy. Let Me Serve You"

I do belong at home. Logically, I’m not saying that I’m always comfortable with being in the home but based on both feelings and experience my place is in the home.  I’m not saying that this is for everyone and I’m not saying that all women belong in the home, just that it works for me.

A while ago I started working outside the home. My life stopped being about my family and started being about sleep, work, sleep, work. Meals were not being made, groceries had to be thrown away, laundry piled up, paperwork got lost and appointments were not kept. The house as a whole collapsed and the family unit was no longer a unit.

Relationship wise, Daddy and I barley saw each other. We were both so tired from working outside the house, that the little bit around the house we could get done when we were home did not even make a dent in what needed to be done. So, I came back home and things are starting to get back to normal…starting to. It’s going to take some work to get it all in order but by god we have clean socks now and that’s a start.

We noticed the activity here. The people still coming to read our words and to share their own thoughts even though we haven’t updated nor responded in years. Daddy and I would like to say thank you. We both appreciate that you all have come to our little blog, taken time out of your daily lives to read through what we’ve presented and have left comments.

You’ve taken the time to come visit, the least we could do is take the time to update and continue to build the blog with our experiences.

Thank you all, again.

BloodLustDaddy and surrender4love

1. Former Missouri House Speaker Rod Jetton (Republican) has been accused of going to far with his consensual partner during BDSM play. Click through to read more here.

2. Photographer Kate Peters spent a year in the UK taking shots of Dominatrix’s for her photo project “Yes, Mistress”. Among her collection are images of BDSM tools and scene rooms.  Click through to read more.

3. From the Switch,  Mike O’Neill’s office is being given away for the holidays. Among the items you can win is the “Bondage Me Elmo”. Click through to read more. *Update, all items have been given away and the contest is closed.

4. Fetlife.com helps Seattle police catch a crazy kinkster.  Click through to read more. *Good Job, fetlife admins!!!

5. Kink.com‘s Peter Acworth and James Mogul turn the Armory’s top level into TheUpperFloor.com which is a 24/7 slave community. Acworth told the Gaurdian’s Sex SF blog:

“From the first time I saw the Armory was for sale, I couldn’t help but think of the Story of O and other stories.”  said, Acworth.

Alberto Vargas, 1962

Being a submissive female, sometimes those things that as a woman you need to develop on your own gets tested when you become owned. Wanting to give yourself over to a Master/Daddy/Dom/Switch or whatever you call them is a need but it’s not something that you can do unless you spend the time getting to know who you are first.

So, what happens when you take your own self worth that took years cultivating and nurturing and put it all in someone else’s hands?

Honestly, you lose yourself but not in a bad way. Losing yourself in a consensual, long term TPE is not the same as a vanilla relationship. I do want to stress though, that there is one thing that is the same and that is you cannot expect your significant other to change who you are on the inside. You cannot expect someone else to “save” you or give you a sense of self worth if you never had one to begin with. You cannot expect someone else to stop you from being yourself.

One of my main issues as a submissive female is putting others before myself and it is often to my own detriment. I know I do it and with certain people I try not to let it happen as badly but in the end I will sacrifice taking care of myself in lieu of making sure others are cared for. In general I’ll just basically let myself become worn down. I feel selfish and guilty when I take anytime to do anything for myself and that has become more so the case since entering into a 24/7TPE.  I literally lose myself to other people and have a bad habit of letting that take over my self worth.

So, losing myself to others in general is not a healthy way to live. The difference is that with Daddy  losing myself to him  is healthy because under his control he will protect me from losing myself to other people. (Notice I said protect and not force. You cannot take an orange and force it to be an apple) He monitors me and those around me and pulls me in when he sees the need to do so. With Daddy, I have someone who will not change me but who will help me help myself. In essence, losing myself to him is more like being found than lost.

I lose myself to him because I choose to, because I trust in him as a Daddy and as a person.  I lose myself into his dominance, his protection, his nurturing and his love in wanting not just the best for himself but in him wanting the best for me as well.

~surrender4love~

The men gather their favorite hand made whipping/spanking tools and proceed to beat the local women. Going both door to door and just smacking women on the street, the men make the rounds in an effort to ensure that the local ladies have another year of beauty ahead of them.

The whipping tools are made up of ten willow rods with ribbons attached at the end called a Pomlazka.  Each rod can be up to two meters in length and the ribbons must touch the ladies bottom while being spanked for the tradition to be carried out in the proper manner.

Being spanked by a man either in front of the family or on the street, shows to all that the woman is cared for. The tradition is not seen as a violent one for the peoples of the Czech Republic but is seen as a loving act to benefit the local men and women.

In return for being spanked, the women give thanks to the men by giving them gifts. The traditional gifts are dyed eggs, plum wine and money.

*image from www.traveljournels.net

With my lips,
I will kiss away the fears that have grown within you and the kiss away the tears that have never and will never be shed.

With my ears,
I will hear all of the words that you cannot always say and I will listen to you when you have no words at all.

With my arms,
I will hold you close to me for all of the times in your life that you should have been held but were not.

With my heart and soul,
I will love you just as you are and will love you who become through the years… just as you were always meant to be loved.

“mo anam chara, mo chroí”

Your babygirl,
surrender4love