Posted by: by conquer4love on August 3, 2008 @ 11:25 pm

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I think it is time I delve a bit deeper into what it is that makes our relationship so special. BDSM, D/s, M/s, Bondage, Pet Play, Blood Play, Bruises and ropes are just a small part of what makes our relationship so special. All of the above are fun in and of themselves but both of us are very “self aware”, our relationship is not just about blood, beatings and sex… its also about spirituality.

Many people are happy and content to just be slapped around and have a cock shoved down their throat, if this was the depth of my interests I live in a state where prostitution is completely legal and you can get any kink filled for the right amount of money. My life and relationship has a major focus on self-improvement and spirituality so the aggressive and violent stuff is just a bonus not the end goal.

We find the spirituality of BDSM to complement deeply our views on things like Green Living, Chakra Energy, Paganism (not Wiccan), Health Awareness and improving ourselves through understanding of our strengths and weaknesses. Anyone wishing to join in with us must be willing to look into themselves and be comfortable with what they find.

Keep reading to find out what sort of people are unacceptable for more than sexual play and why they are unacceptable…
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Category: In Real Life, Relationship, spirituality, submission

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Posted by: by surrender4love on July 31, 2008 @ 12:06 am

Conquer4love is opinionated, strong in his core values and unshakable in compromise. His way of life, is truly “My way or the highway”. His unreasonable nature is for me, one of the greatest things about him and what makes him an ideal Dom. He is made for dominance and he owns that aspect of himself.

Too many people skim over the surface of life being unsure of what they want. Not knowing who they are or where they stand on things; not so with Conquer4love. I never have to worry about him not making a decision on anything. I never have to worry about him not allowing his dominance to be a part of everyday life. I never have to be put in the position of “toping from the bottom” in order to get through the day to day things of life; something that I have dealt with from men in past relationships.
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Category: Essential Reading, In Real Life, Relationship, dominance, submission

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Posted by: by conquer4love on July 15, 2008 @ 11:25 pm

On CollarMe.com and Bondage.com I see lots of people asking what collar they should get for their submissive. I feel that right away these people are asking the wrong question. The question is not what collar should you get but what sort of collar is appropriate to your environment and community. Some people have the advantage of living in large forward thinking communities where a 3 inch thick band of metal around a persons neck would draw nothing more then a quick glance, others live in small religious communities where anything that even looks like a choker would draw lots of looks and questions.

The dilemma that I had while choosing what material would encircle surrender4love’s neck is the social environment we live in. As much as I would have loved to wrap a thick piece of metal with a huge padlock around her neck, proclaiming to the world that she was owned in more ways than just in a relationship, it did not fit into the type of community we live in. I choose to go with a thick spiral chain necklace from Bico Las Vegas (chosen and placed on her neck while we were visiting Vegas on a holiday). I removed the clasp from the necklace and replaced it with some small chain links in the back. There are times when we go out of town and I want her to wear a collar that is thick and draws attention, during these times I place her pink “love” leather collar or the red/brown thick leather collar around her neck.

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Category: Relationship, The Toy Box

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Posted by: by surrender4love on July 14, 2008 @ 2:24 am

Personally, I feel that in our day to day relationship that having expectations are harder to keep up with than rules. Before I get started on that topic, I do want to say that what follows are my personal thoughts and feelings on the matter. I am in no way saying that one way is better or worse. I am just stating what works for our relationship.

With the rules you have punishment. Rules are set and not always maintained leading to punishment. Now, this is not to say that Conquer4love does not whip me just for amusement because he does and he does have the right to punish me when he sees fit which can be outside of the rules being set. What I am saying here, is that in my view point the biggest reason for lists of rules within a relationship is to manage punishments in a way to keep punishments happening. I am not saying that a sub/slave needs to be punished all the time but there is something about punishments that a sub/slave needs or they would not get into the lifestyle in the first place. Also, a Dom/Master who has a perfect sub/slave with no punishments ever required doesn’t fulfill their need to punish beyond exerting basic control.
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Tags: Dom, dominance, expectations, master, punish, punishment, Relationship, relationship expectations, rules, slave, sub, submissive, submissive journal, surrender4love

Category: Relationship, submissive journal

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Posted by: by conquer4love on July 13, 2008 @ 6:07 am

Rules, god I hate rules as they are only useful if they are truly enforced. Many BDSM relationships are filled with rules, checklists, questionnaires and contracts so people tend to be surprised when they find that in my dealing with surrender4love I have taken a more minimalistic approach to rules.

Rule #1 : My way may not be the best way, the fastest way or even the correct way but it is the only acceptable way.
Rule #2 : “No” is never an acceptable response to a command that is given.
Rule #3 : Do as I say.

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Category: Edge Play, Relationship, public sex

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