As I got older, I let that curiosity and interest lead me to the internet where I found out that I wasn’t the only one out there who thought or felt this way. Being online let me explore more and share my ideas, feelings and needs with other like minded people. For the first time in my life, I finally felt less of an outsider because there were other females out there that were just as submissive as I learned that I was.

I first met BloodLustDaddy in an online chat room about a year and a half ago. At first we argued quite a bit over various issues that would come up in the room but we always came to terms, agreed to disagree and began to see each other as friends. When we first met, I was very adamant about my limits. I wanted nothing to do with polyamory, I wasn’t bi-curious at all and I didn’t see how our friendship could have ever developed into something more because he was already in a dedicated TPE.

When I look back at the person I was at that time, it makes me laugh a bit to find myself in my current situation. Right now, I am under consideration with Sir and Ma’am to become a member of their family. I’m still learning who I am in the realm of living an alternative lifestyle but I know that I have grown so much already under their guidance and I am looking forward to path before me.

So, I hope that you’ll join me in this journey here at SP as we share the laughter, the lessons and lives of three people coming together under the umbrella of a 24/7, real life D/s/s relationship.

-brat2Bbroken

She will be contributing articles to the site as well as going through the normal ‘learning and training’ that would be expected of anyone entering a new relationship.

brat2Bbroken has a deep interest in the lifestyle but has not had an opportunity to explore it as deep as she would like, working with her we hope to open her mind and emotions to what can be a very exciting though trap filled path to family.

As well as doing lifestyle articles she will be posting about how things are going, what she is experiencing and how she feels. We hope that this will act as a tool for others who might be entering into the same sort of situation.

For good or bad this is sure to be a learning experience for us all.

–BloodLustDaddy

1. Former Missouri House Speaker Rod Jetton (Republican) has been accused of going to far with his consensual partner during BDSM play. Click through to read more here.

2. Photographer Kate Peters spent a year in the UK taking shots of Dominatrix’s for her photo project “Yes, Mistress”. Among her collection are images of BDSM tools and scene rooms.  Click through to read more.

3. From the Switch,  Mike O’Neill’s office is being given away for the holidays. Among the items you can win is the “Bondage Me Elmo”. Click through to read more. *Update, all items have been given away and the contest is closed.

4. Fetlife.com helps Seattle police catch a crazy kinkster.  Click through to read more. *Good Job, fetlife admins!!!

5. Kink.com‘s Peter Acworth and James Mogul turn the Armory’s top level into TheUpperFloor.com which is a 24/7 slave community. Acworth told the Gaurdian’s Sex SF blog:

“From the first time I saw the Armory was for sale, I couldn’t help but think of the Story of O and other stories.”  said, Acworth.

Taken care of, fixed, all better.

* hint hint *

–BloodLustDaddy

Alberto Vargas, 1962

Being a submissive female, sometimes those things that as a woman you need to develop on your own gets tested when you become owned. Wanting to give yourself over to a Master/Daddy/Dom/Switch or whatever you call them is a need but it’s not something that you can do unless you spend the time getting to know who you are first.

So, what happens when you take your own self worth that took years cultivating and nurturing and put it all in someone else’s hands?

Honestly, you lose yourself but not in a bad way. Losing yourself in a consensual, long term TPE is not the same as a vanilla relationship. I do want to stress though, that there is one thing that is the same and that is you cannot expect your significant other to change who you are on the inside. You cannot expect someone else to “save” you or give you a sense of self worth if you never had one to begin with. You cannot expect someone else to stop you from being yourself.

One of my main issues as a submissive female is putting others before myself and it is often to my own detriment. I know I do it and with certain people I try not to let it happen as badly but in the end I will sacrifice taking care of myself in lieu of making sure others are cared for. In general I’ll just basically let myself become worn down. I feel selfish and guilty when I take anytime to do anything for myself and that has become more so the case since entering into a 24/7TPE.  I literally lose myself to other people and have a bad habit of letting that take over my self worth.

So, losing myself to others in general is not a healthy way to live. The difference is that with Daddy  losing myself to him  is healthy because under his control he will protect me from losing myself to other people. (Notice I said protect and not force. You cannot take an orange and force it to be an apple) He monitors me and those around me and pulls me in when he sees the need to do so. With Daddy, I have someone who will not change me but who will help me help myself. In essence, losing myself to him is more like being found than lost.

I lose myself to him because I choose to, because I trust in him as a Daddy and as a person.  I lose myself into his dominance, his protection, his nurturing and his love in wanting not just the best for himself but in him wanting the best for me as well.

~surrender4love~

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The men gather their favorite hand made whipping/spanking tools and proceed to beat the local women. Going both door to door and just smacking women on the street, the men make the rounds in an effort to ensure that the local ladies have another year of beauty ahead of them.

The whipping tools are made up of ten willow rods with ribbons attached at the end called a Pomlazka.  Each rod can be up to two meters in length and the ribbons must touch the ladies bottom while being spanked for the tradition to be carried out in the proper manner.

Being spanked by a man either in front of the family or on the street, shows to all that the woman is cared for. The tradition is not seen as a violent one for the peoples of the Czech Republic but is seen as a loving act to benefit the local men and women.

In return for being spanked, the women give thanks to the men by giving them gifts. The traditional gifts are dyed eggs, plum wine and money.

*image from www.traveljournels.net

With my lips,
I will kiss away the fears that have grown within you and the kiss away the tears that have never and will never be shed.

With my ears,
I will hear all of the words that you cannot always say and I will listen to you when you have no words at all.

With my arms,
I will hold you close to me for all of the times in your life that you should have been held but were not.

With my heart and soul,
I will love you just as you are and will love you who become through the years… just as you were always meant to be loved.

“mo anam chara, mo chroí”

Your babygirl,
surrender4love

Owl and Pussy Cat

Surrender4love looks up to me as daddy, mentor, tutor, master, provider and when she fails or does not do as requested of her then judge, juror and executioner of sorts. I have never been the sort of person to want a pre-trained submissive because my rules, desires and preferences are different than the person they may have learned from.

As her daddy I also act as her wise (not so old) owl to guide her and help her grow into a better and more structured person, to help her embrace her submission, creativity and free spirit.

She brings into my life the simple things that she falls in love with like the leaves as they change color, the rain on a summers day, the grass stains on the bottom of her feet and catching snowflakes on the tongue. As the provider I often do not notice these things in the rush to provide for the family and do what needs to be done… the little things in life that we should be enjoying get missed on a daily basis until I hear her little giggle or gasp of awe.

Like a good little babygirl she is always happy to see me, running up for hugs and kisses, speaking about things that excite her at 100 words a second and coming up just to randomly brush her hand against me for the physical contact.

It is easy to forget in a D/s relationship dynamic that everyone involved brings something important into the relationship just as everyone involved has to sacrifice to keep the relationship and family alive.

Surrender4love sacrifices in her choice to allow me to control her life, in following my decision that she work from home, in following my demands that the house be clean, in prepping dinner every night and waking the family during the day… she gives up parts of herself to ensure that others in the household are provided for on an emotional and spiritual level.

I work to provide roof and sustenance to the family, to ensure that our lights are on and the heat is paid. I analyze the direction we need to go and make sure that everyone is united towards the same goal. I do my best to make sure that babygirl does not forget to take time to be creative by writing and doing her artwork. I remind her when she is focusing so much on others that she begins to forget the things that are important to her.

Though this is a D/s relationship it is not, and will never be, a one sided relationship. She brings as much into the relationship as I do and sacrifices just as much as I do… we have a real world relationship that requires more than a “fuck me” dom dynamic.

I greatly value what she brings to the relationship because through her eyes (though she is the same age as I) I see the happy things in life and am able to smile at the sight of two small birds fighting over a large twig, things I would not have noticed if not for her.

She is sitting next to me right this moment and is starting to cry… that’s another important thing she brings in, the raw emotion fed by love and happiness.

~~BloodLustDaddy~~