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The requirement of spirituality….
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I think it is time I delve a bit deeper into what it is that makes our relationship so special. BDSM, D/s, M/s, Bondage, Pet Play, Blood Play, Bruises and ropes are just a small part of what makes our relationship so special. All of the above are fun in and of themselves but both of us are very “self aware”, our relationship is not just about blood, beatings and sex… its also about spirituality.
Many people are happy and content to just be slapped around and have a cock shoved down their throat, if this was the depth of my interests I live in a state where prostitution is completely legal and you can get any kink filled for the right amount of money. My life and relationship has a major focus on self-improvement and spirituality so the aggressive and violent stuff is just a bonus not the end goal.
We find the spirituality of BDSM to complement deeply our views on things like Green Living, Chakra Energy, Paganism (not Wiccan), Health Awareness and improving ourselves through understanding of our strengths and weaknesses. Anyone wishing to join in with us must be willing to look into themselves and be comfortable with what they find.
Keep reading to find out what sort of people are unacceptable for more than sexual play and why they are unacceptable…
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Woman denied citizenship for being to “submissive”
Faiza M. has lived in France since 2000. She is married to a Frenchman and has had three children in France. She has applied for French citizenship twice and has been denied both times by the French government. The reason she was denied? The French government believes she is too submissive in her marriage.
According to social services, she lives in “total submission” to her husband and male relatives including her father and brother-in-law. Click here to read full article over at the Scotsman News online.
Now, when I first saw the headline: Burka-wearing woman denied citizenship for being ’submissive’, I thought that surely this must be some kind of joke. You know, maybe a case of sensationalizing a headline just to get people to read it but nope, it’s true.
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A new collar for kitten…
On CollarMe.com and Bondage.com I see lots of people asking what collar they should get for their submissive. I feel that right away these people are asking the wrong question. The question is not what collar should you get but what sort of collar is appropriate to your environment and community. Some people have the advantage of living in large forward thinking communities where a 3 inch thick band of metal around a persons neck would draw nothing more then a quick glance, others live in small religious communities where anything that even looks like a choker would draw lots of looks and questions.
The dilemma that I had while choosing what material would encircle surrender4love’s neck is the social environment we live in. As much as I would have loved to wrap a thick piece of metal with a huge padlock around her neck, proclaiming to the world that she was owned in more ways than just in a relationship, it did not fit into the type of community we live in. I choose to go with a thick spiral chain necklace from Bico Las Vegas (chosen and placed on her neck while we were visiting Vegas on a holiday). I removed the clasp from the necklace and replaced it with some small chain links in the back. There are times when we go out of town and I want her to wear a collar that is thick and draws attention, during these times I place her pink “love” leather collar or the red/brown thick leather collar around her neck.
The basics…
Rules, god I hate rules as they are only useful if they are truly enforced. Many BDSM relationships are filled with rules, checklists, questionnaires and contracts so people tend to be surprised when they find that in my dealing with surrender4love I have taken a more minimalistic approach to rules.
Rule #1 : My way may not be the best way, the fastest way or even the correct way but it is the only acceptable way.
Rule #2 : “No” is never an acceptable response to a command that is given.
Rule #3 : Do as I say.
Our kitten play toys…
A friend asked to see our collection of kitten play toys after we were talking about how she likes puppy play. So per request here are the toys that my girl wears and plays with when she is in Neko mode:
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How a collar relates to our dominant/submissive relationship…
Surrender4love has worn her collar for over a year straight now, it has only been taken off twice during our relationship. The first time we removed her collar was due to an infraction that put our very relationship in danger and the other was for cleaning.
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How to piss off a bunch of people in line behind you…
A while back, Conquer4love had put ankle and wrist chains on me. These chains were just like my collar in that they were not made to come off unless he undid the links in the chain himself. I had been wearing these chains for over a month and had gotten used to the feel of them on my skin and was really enjoying the feeling of being bound for my Dom even when we couldn’t spend all the hours in the day together. No one had really commented on the chains and when people did notice I think that they just chalked it up to it being regular jewelry. Well, at least that what I assumed people thought until I had to make a run to the courthouse.
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A day without my collar
Thursday was the day set to dye my hair. So, first thing that morning Conquer4love took my collar off so that I wouldn’t get it all gooped up with hair dye. I had tried to prepare myself for the day, tried to emotionally get ready for being without my collar by telling myself over and over that I could handle it. Little did I realize how unprepared I actually was.
Because the second he removed my collar the whole world turned upside down and set the stage for the rest of the day.
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Sites that we visit, read and support:
- The Long and Winding Road of a Slave
- vanilla-impaired
- Daily Bedpost
- Pierced Panties
- doubleknot’s ruminations
- Fueling the Fires
- Roxy’s Flog Blog
- BDSM is Love
- At Longings End
- Bondage Freaky
- avralivia
- Secondhand Rose
- Submissive Reflections
- pixiepie’s secrets
- Ramblings of a kajira
- Defending the Raven
- Selena Kitt
- Master & Lady
- Views of a stubborn slave
- Eros Blog
- Gorean Refuge
- Kitten In Chains
- Under His Hand
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