Social Perversion » dedication http://www.socialperversion.com Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 07 Feb 2012 05:55:08 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 How a collar relates to our dominant/submissive relationship… http://www.socialperversion.com/2008/04/20/how-a-collar-relates-to-our-dominantsubmissive-relationship/ http://www.socialperversion.com/2008/04/20/how-a-collar-relates-to-our-dominantsubmissive-relationship/#comments Sun, 20 Apr 2008 04:21:01 +0000 BloodLustDaddy Surrender4love has worn her collar for over a year straight now, it has only been taken off twice during our relationship. The first time we removed her collar was due to an infraction that put our very relationship in danger and the other was for cleaning.

Many a master takes issue with a dominant collaring his submissive, many masters feel that the collar is and should be reserved as a tool for a master to use with his slave and not for a dominant to “soil the meaning of” in a D/s relationship. I take exception with how these masters view the collar simply because they do not and cannot understand the depth of our relationship. Surrender4love’s submission to me is complete in all matters, it is my choice to allow her to choose how and when specific things happen in her day to day life. There are days when I come home and from the moment I reference her as “slave” she enters truly into the slave mindset and thus her collar should be well earned even in their eyes(not that I really care how they view the matter).

The collar Surrender4love wears is a sign of her submission, her level of ownership and her total devotion to me in all matters. During the times that Surrender4love has gone without her collar she has felt detached from herself, her life and our relationship. Nothing thrills me more than seeing my girl in her collar;nothing gets me more excited than grabbing my girls collar and pulling her close to me. It’s a physical and publicly visible symbol of her choice to allow someone else to control her choices and actions in life.

Our choice to establish our lifestyle as a D/s relationship rather then an M/s relationship is primarily because she has the ability to enter into the mindset of a slave and my ability to truly enter into a master mindset when I feel that such is needed. We feel that in the long run having my girl be a slave would take away many of the little things that made me fall in love with her those many years ago: her love of being random, her love of creating art and her history of seeing the simplest things in the world as amazing. If my girl was to become a 24/7 slave these things would quickly dissolve away in her submission and thus destroy the very things I value so much in her.

Neither of us take the collar lightly. Both of us understand its meaning to us and its symbolism of our relationship. When I placed the collar around her neck I knew I was agreeing to someone allowing me to make all major decisions in the relationship and in our lives together. To me this level of submission is not a joke and is not just a sexual game, I consider myself responsible for every decision I make on her behalf.

Through the collar, my dominance and her submission we have found a relationship that matches our personalities perfectly and have both found what we consider to be the most loving, happy and fulfilling relationship either of us have had in our 30+ years of life on this chaotic planet.

~~BloodLustDaddy~~

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