Posted by: by conquer4love on September 26, 2008 @ 1:46 pm

Responsibility.

There are so many little things in life that a provider has to be responsible for: work, money, bills, emotional health, time management, appointments… it all can be overwhelming for even the most responsible provider at times. Once we get everything nailed down and figured out it seems that something comes up to throw a wrench into our plans.

These responsibilities are even more difficult when your a Master or Dom because you also have to take into account the wellbeing of those who have submitted to you. To have someone rely on you and hand themselves to you mind, body, spirit and soul is an additional responsibility and something that adds to your requirements.

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Posted by: by surrender4love on July 14, 2008 @ 2:24 am

Personally, I feel that in our day to day relationship that having expectations are harder to keep up with than rules. Before I get started on that topic, I do want to say that what follows are my personal thoughts and feelings on the matter. I am in no way saying that one way is better or worse. I am just stating what works for our relationship.

With the rules you have punishment. Rules are set and not always maintained leading to punishment. Now, this is not to say that Conquer4love does not whip me just for amusement because he does and he does have the right to punish me when he sees fit which can be outside of the rules being set. What I am saying here, is that in my view point the biggest reason for lists of rules within a relationship is to manage punishments in a way to keep punishments happening. I am not saying that a sub/slave needs to be punished all the time but there is something about punishments that a sub/slave needs or they would not get into the lifestyle in the first place. Also, a Dom/Master who has a perfect sub/slave with no punishments ever required doesn’t fulfill their need to punish beyond exerting basic control.
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Posted by: by conquer4love on June 29, 2008 @ 11:32 pm

There has been a resurgence on the net again of those who don’t understand the “submission is a gift” stance and try to discredit it using comments such as “I don’t give my submission, my master takes it” and “he makes me submit, I don’t have a choice”… and then we have the “True Masters” who make brash and asinine statements such as “her submission is not a gift, its what I am entitled to as a master” and I have to call Bull Shit. Let’s put this shit in its proper place right now. This posting comes after a 4+ page conversation over at CollarMe about the topic and people who “just don’t get it” and who feel it “drives them up the wall”.
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Posted by: by conquer4love on April 20, 2008 @ 12:21 am

Surrender4love has worn her collar for over a year straight now, it has only been taken off twice during our relationship. The first time we removed her collar was due to an infraction that put our very relationship in danger and the other was for cleaning.
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Posted by: by conquer4love on March 17, 2008 @ 12:38 am

Consensual aggressive play between adults is not abusive and should not be seen as such.

Consent, it’s a simple word with simple meaning. Webster’s Dictionary defines consent as “compliance in or approval of what is done or proposed by another” and “agreement as to action or opinion”. You hear often from those who are not part of the lifestyle that BDSM is abusive. People who are not a part of the lifestyle can often mistake the bruises and scratches of rough play as signs of abuse. The BDSM lifestyle is about consensual actions taken by grown and knowledgeable adults.
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