Posted by: by surrender4love on September 10, 2008 @ 10:59 pm

Thank you to Luna over at Sensual Service for this evening’s journal prompt. For those who do not know, Sensual Service is Luna’s site dedicate to being a submissive woman’s guide created by submissives.

How do I personally ask Daddy for forgiveness? Well, to be completely honest I do not ask Daddy for forgiveness. I apologize for my actions and convey how I understand what I did wrong but I don’t just come out and ask for forgiveness.
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Posted by: by surrender4love on July 14, 2008 @ 2:24 am

Personally, I feel that in our day to day relationship that having expectations are harder to keep up with than rules. Before I get started on that topic, I do want to say that what follows are my personal thoughts and feelings on the matter. I am in no way saying that one way is better or worse. I am just stating what works for our relationship.

With the rules you have punishment. Rules are set and not always maintained leading to punishment. Now, this is not to say that Conquer4love does not whip me just for amusement because he does and he does have the right to punish me when he sees fit which can be outside of the rules being set. What I am saying here, is that in my view point the biggest reason for lists of rules within a relationship is to manage punishments in a way to keep punishments happening. I am not saying that a sub/slave needs to be punished all the time but there is something about punishments that a sub/slave needs or they would not get into the lifestyle in the first place. Also, a Dom/Master who has a perfect sub/slave with no punishments ever required doesn’t fulfill their need to punish beyond exerting basic control.
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Category: Relationship, submissive journal

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Posted by: by conquer4love on July 13, 2008 @ 6:07 am

Rules, god I hate rules as they are only useful if they are truly enforced. Many BDSM relationships are filled with rules, checklists, questionnaires and contracts so people tend to be surprised when they find that in my dealing with surrender4love I have taken a more minimalistic approach to rules.

Rule #1 : My way may not be the best way, the fastest way or even the correct way but it is the only acceptable way.
Rule #2 : “No” is never an acceptable response to a command that is given.
Rule #3 : Do as I say.

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Category: Edge Play, Relationship, public sex

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Posted by: by conquer4love on April 7, 2008 @ 1:00 am

**start-note** It should be noted that the explanations I use bellow are in reference to OUR Long Term 24/7 TPE and not to people who come in for short to medium term play. This post should not be assumed to represent the ideals or thoughts of any other dominant that you come across, in fact I find them to be a little uncommon when speaking to many other doms in the world.**end-note**

Dominance in the family and relationship is important and one of the major factors to the success of our relationship.
I have been in many vanilla relationships in the past but they were always tarnished with the back and forth power plays that plaque most “equal” couples. Our D/s relationship has allowed me to take the reigns in our relationship and direct where the family goes, where we focus our efforts and how we get where we are going.
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