Alberto Vargas, 1962

Being a submissive female, sometimes those things that as a woman you need to develop on your own gets tested when you become owned. Wanting to give yourself over to a Master/Daddy/Dom/Switch or whatever you call them is a need but it’s not something that you can do unless you spend the time getting to know who you are first.

So, what happens when you take your own self worth that took years cultivating and nurturing and put it all in someone else’s hands?

Honestly, you lose yourself but not in a bad way. Losing yourself in a consensual, long term TPE is not the same as a vanilla relationship. I do want to stress though, that there is one thing that is the same and that is you cannot expect your significant other to change who you are on the inside. You cannot expect someone else to “save” you or give you a sense of self worth if you never had one to begin with. You cannot expect someone else to stop you from being yourself.

One of my main issues as a submissive female is putting others before myself and it is often to my own detriment. I know I do it and with certain people I try not to let it happen as badly but in the end I will sacrifice taking care of myself in lieu of making sure others are cared for. In general I’ll just basically let myself become worn down. I feel selfish and guilty when I take anytime to do anything for myself and that has become more so the case since entering into a 24/7TPE.  I literally lose myself to other people and have a bad habit of letting that take over my self worth.

So, losing myself to others in general is not a healthy way to live. The difference is that with Daddy  losing myself to him  is healthy because under his control he will protect me from losing myself to other people. (Notice I said protect and not force. You cannot take an orange and force it to be an apple) He monitors me and those around me and pulls me in when he sees the need to do so. With Daddy, I have someone who will not change me but who will help me help myself. In essence, losing myself to him is more like being found than lost.

I lose myself to him because I choose to, because I trust in him as a Daddy and as a person.  I lose myself into his dominance, his protection, his nurturing and his love in wanting not just the best for himself but in him wanting the best for me as well.

~surrender4love~

There are so many little things in life that a provider has to be responsible for: work, money, bills, emotional health, time management, appointments… it all can be overwhelming for even the most responsible provider at times. Once we get everything nailed down and figured out it seems that something comes up to throw a wrench into our plans.

These responsibilities are even more difficult when your a Master or Dom because you also have to take into account the wellbeing of those who have submitted to you. To have someone rely on you and hand themselves to you mind, body, spirit and soul is an additional responsibility and something that adds to your requirements.

Now add in family members who may be crying out for help, friends who need a shoulder to cry on and an ear to talk to, social groups that want your attention and assistance in building a community, political groups that want you to help canvas for specific officials, religious groups that want you to help protest and spread awareness and you end up having to juggle things in trying to keep everyone happy. At times there are just not enough hours in the day for all that we want to do, for everyone we want to help… and part of being responsible is to see when this happens and resolve how to fix it.

At times everything needs to be reevaluated and those things not of the utmost important need to be pushed aside… as a provider and a responsible person this can be hard to do, to admit that we are not able to handle everything the world wants us to no matter how much me may want to.

Several things have come up recently that have made me have to reconsider some of the responsibilities that I had taken in my day to day life… and because of some of these responsibilities others have been pushed back when they should not have been. I have resolved the situation now and things are back in proper order but I had to let a few go, and for some reason that stings. The thought that I can not handle everything in life that I want to does have an effect on the ego and the spirit, though I know that what I have done is in the best interest of those who’s lives depend on me I still feel bad for having to push other things aside

This will however again allow me to focus on those friends, family and tasks that matter most in my life.

More wheat and less chaff?

Have a good day, night and weekend.

~~BloodLustDaddy~~

A squirting woman has full body rolling orgasms that rock her body, she is unable to control her reflexes, her body or even her mind. The beauty of a female after she has had a squirting orgasm is nothing short of amazing. The female mind during a squirting orgasm shuts down to where they take on an almost childish state of mind, unable to complete any but the most simple of sentences. This has been my goal with surrender4love for a couple months now and last weekend we finally achieved it.

It started on the “loverly” side with a lot of kissing and petting, an attempt to involve every sense as deeply into the experience as I could. After a lengthy loverly session we moved on to penetration with her on her back, hands pinned above her head and legs spread wide. We have a standing rule that surrender4love is not allowed to orgasm unless she asks and is give permission, in order to prevent her asking for permission my lips were pressed with force against hers. After a little while I released her arms and allowed her hands to roam my body.

Feeling her body shake as she held back the orgasm I became more forceful, not pausing for even a second in the thrusting. Continuing to ravage her body and feeling the tears of exertion roll down her cheeks from holding back the orgasm I finally released her lips and spoke the command “Cum for Daddy”.

The orgasm wracked her body, she gasped for air and went into uncontrollable shaking and sobbing fits, with a deep moan she exploded, warm fluids shooting from her pussy and drenching us both. She continued to twitch and wiggle in ecstasy for nearly thirty minutes, unable to speak anything beyond a basic word and mostly just giggles, in deep orgasm the entire time. After her orgasm a light touch or breath on her body brought her to the edge of orgasm again.

There is something really cute about a woman who has been fucked silly, truly silly as in unable to speak anything beyond a couple of words. And when those words are spoken there is such a childish enthusiasm that she almost seams like a child learning how to speak all over again.

I find this to be almost the golden chalice of dominance, the ability to take what was once a fragile girl and strip her fears and insecurities away leaving only sexuality, spirituality and acceptance. To be able to bring a submissive to the point of ecstasy and hold her there, to show her body the power of an unconstrained orgasm. This is the sign of a master, one who can not only master himself and control his submissive but to be able to control her body to the point where it belongs to him and his touch, where she has lost all control and he now controls her through the pleasure that he chooses to allow or deny.

Her submission has been absolute in the last week, after the experience that night she has been ready, willing and begging to submit to any desire I have no matter how odd or perverse. This is what I see should be the goal of every dominant, to bring their submissive beyond the “I serve because I am submissive” to the level of “I serve because my body aches”. You can not fight the body, only the mind and in this case she has shown her mind and body belong to me in all ways, when I touch her now I can see the ripples of remembered pleasure surge across her body and the ache for more filling her eyes.

The experience for me has been enormous, to know that I can take her to the point that no other man she has been with could That I can take her to the point where her body, from the top of her head to the tip of her toes is writhing in desire and a simple touch can again bring her to a spasming orgasm. To know that her thoughts will never again be on what another man would feel like because they are always on what I have made her feel like.

~~BloodLustDaddy~~

If this had been a couple of years ago, I more than likely would have freaked out. I had preconceived notions of what a “DaddyDom” was. I was afraid what that might represent and I didn’t think at the time that I was capable of handling such a thing emotionally. Now, at this current stage… I can look back and see that my fears were unfounded.

BloodLustDaddy as my Dom, does take a parental role in our TPE. He is my provider and the law in our household as well as in our relationship. He is not by any means a father figure. There is a difference between being an actual child and needing a father and being a grown woman and needing a Daddy. Him being my DaddyDom means that he takes care of me on an even deeper level emotionally than that of being Sir. And I being submissive am driven now by an additional need and want to be a good girl for my Daddy.

I find a great deal of comfort in being his baby girl. I also find a great deal in freedom emotionally that allows me to go deeper in my service to him by being closer to who I am and being allowed to embrace that. Part of being a grown woman and being a baby girl, is not in acting as a child but in having a high level of vulnerability and innocence in regards to the surrounding world. A baby girl needs protection both from the outside world and from herself; this is where the dynamic of BloodLustDaddy being my DaddyDom comes in for me.

I am comfortable with the evolution that has taken place in our relationship. The change was overall a subconscious one the became a part of our everyday lives. I love my Daddy even more than I can fully describe in words and I am proud to please him as his baby girl.

~surrender4love

Beltane by Sharyn Turner

No, I don’t mean that God. Set your minds lower to the dirtier, animalistic side of the spiritual; the Pagan side. My Horned God and all that is male centered with the universe as a whole comes to me through BloodLustDaddy. He is my physical male representative of the divine and it’s not all because he whips me. When I look at him and obey him, in a sense I am falling in line under the will of his spirit and in doing so, I honor my own spirit as well.

Our sexual and personality preferences are not something that we can detach. The same goes for our spirituality, it is not a detachable or an interchangeable aspect of who we are… it just simply is who we are.

I do understand that there are some people who won’t understand this concept and that’s okay. For me though, being submissive and under BloodLustDaddy’s command is not at all unlike that of being a rock polished or carved by the force of water. I see both of us as pure forces of nature. We are as natural as the Earth and in keeping with the laws of the natural world we share that balance that exists all around us but is rarely honored or set free in the constrained mainstream world that our society has created. His dominance balances me and fuels the fire of who I really am. BloodLustDaddy’s ownership of me makes me a better submissive, a better woman and a better person on all planes of existence.

There is a beauty in being unable to separate our spirituality with our D/s lifestyle. We have freedom in and through each other because of BDSM being a regular part of everyday life and not just something we do every few years. Honestly, I don’t think that now I could handle not having the lifestyle being our LIFESTYLE.

Such things as Chakra alignment and channeling energy through each other’s bodies is apart of what we do, along with exploring the events and experiences that make up all of the little pieces inside us as humans. We exude spirituality in every little thing we do because we accept that spirit energy that makes up the core of who we are in conjunction with the mundane physical world that we live in. D/s, BDSM, Paganism and universal energy all align with one another to support our spirits from the inside. You can think of it a little, as the ribbon that runs through a corset piercing.

Too many people skim over the surface of life being unsure of what they want. Not knowing who they are or where they stand on things; not so with BloodLustDaddy. I never have to worry about him not making a decision on anything. I never have to worry about him not allowing his dominance to be a part of everyday life. I never have to be put in the position of “toping from the bottom” in order to get through the day to day things of life; something that I have dealt with from men in past relationships.

As a female, I don’t see anything wrong with his statements on women. And this is not just because I am his sub. If I had a problem with his views on women, I wouldn’t be here. We are trained to manipulate men. To take their masculinity away from them is a part of the learning social structure of female’s in our society. If you are upset by his statements, more than likely it’s not his words that have angered you but it his honesty of what he is saying that you find hard to face within yourself and in society.

I never embraced the training of men growing up and because of that every relationship that has come before now has failed. Once in a relationship, I refused to try and train the man even when instructed to do so by their own mother. I refused to be a “nag”, refused to be another mother to them and refused to be their responsibility scapegoat. By refusing to act as what society would expect the vanilla relationships to perform as, the relationships had no possibility of being successful by today’s standards.

Men are not weak on their own; we and the society that we live in make them that way. The mainstream media helps to perpetuate the inane ideal that a man must be macho and stupid. Men are shown to be bumbling about through life unable to make a decision about anything on their own without a woman coming by to save him from himself. We’re not saviors, ladies we are nurtures and it’s about time we owned that as well.

Now, when BloodLustDaddy has a command and I don’t fully understand where he is coming from…I still perform the command. I trust in his being unreasonable and in his right to do what he does even if there is no other reason for it other than his personal gratification.

~surrender4love~

History.

I am going to make some broad generalizations now that may upset you, please understand that these observations are based on my personal experiences. Though they may not apply to everyone I feel that I have had a large enough sampling in my years of dating to make an educated observation. I am sure there are exceptions, you may be the exception, but I am going to state things as I see them. So that you understand where I am coming from, you should know that I have what some would deem as an… excessive history of relationships. The majority of these relationships were short lived (six months to a year) with a few lasting from four years clear up to ten years.

The majority of my relationships in the past have been the very model of “normal” and “acceptable” by societies standards. As an example one of my last relationships made everyone else happy, they saw us as the “perfect couple” and often attempted to duplicate what they saw. The issue here is they were only seeing what we wanted them to see, they never saw the power struggles and the four hour arguments that took a toll on our relationship and trust for each other. Often I looked around to try and find why these things were happening in what was designed to be a good relationship. Why were we fighting? Why were we engaged in a power struggle? Why would she be manipulative? Why would she purposefully engage in behavior designed to make me jealous? Why was each day an attempt to break me down more and more from a dominant man into a easily manipulated pawn?

I have never been the type of person to be content with that “things just are” explanation. I have always been driven to understand why things are and what cause and effect exists in each situation. Being that these were vanilla relationships, questions were always left unanswered and simple questions were treated as personal attacks. By forming a group of female friends and a series of surprisingly open and honest relationships, I was able to get many of the answers that had plagued me for so many years. I am going to make my observations and provide substantial evidence in order to back up my observations. Afterwards, I will explain why I am happy to be an “unreasonable man” and how this will never change.

Observations.

1. Women are manipulative
2. Women are pathological liars
3. Women both seek out dominant males and fear a dominant male

I understand that you may consider these to be brash statements so let me expand on each point and provide proof to my comments. Keeping in mind that I do not see women as starting out this way but that they develop these traits based on pressure in our society.

1. Women are manipulative.

In general women are raised from childhood being taught that men are stupid, stubborn, indecisive and ultimately unable to take care of themselves or anyone else. Mass media is filled with examples of men who are unable to make even the most basic decisions unless it involves a grill or a sport with lots of other men and a round object. Examples of this are easy to spot in nearly any commercial aimed at the female demographic as well as nearly every soap opera and prime time T.V. series. When was the last time you saw “Tim Taylor” from “Tool Time”, “George Lopez” from the “George Lopez Show” or even “Bill Cosby” from the “Bill Cosby Show” provide happily for their families while cleanly taking care of all the family issue that come up during the day? All of these men and many more are shown to be bumbling idiots who can never do anything right and require the wife to come home and fix everything the man has screwed up. Mass media makes it very clear that men are not that bright and because we are stubborn the only way to actually get a male to do anything correctly is to manipulate him into either doing it right or getting someone else to do it for him. Men being stubborn and indecisive requires that women manipulate the situation to get the desired result while attempting to make the man believe that it was his idea from the start.

Things have taken a turn for the worse in society regarding the normal power structure that is perpetrated by all major media outlets. No longer is Ricky(I Love Lucy) coming home to his loving wife and taking care of any issues that may have come up during the day, now Tim is coming home and fucking everything up requiring Jill to manipulate him into a happy outcome. I am unsure of exactly where this transition took place however, I am fairly confident that this is yet another unacceptable bi-product of the post-feminist era of the sexual revolution. I can already see the trolls getting ready to flame me to hell but WAIT AND FINISH THE FUCKING ARTICLE FIRST. One may believe that it was perhaps a requirement that to raise up one social group another had to be brought down. However, I believe that this is just another case of mistaken intent based on a few extremists that got involved. At some point feminism changed from a focus of equality to a focus of man hating and female superiority. Even many of the founders of the feminist movement have withdrawn and condemned the actions taken as outside of the intended results.

To further substantiate my stance on point: I call into question the lovely set of best selling female training manuals “The Rules” by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, self professed “Dating Coaches” (I will not link to such lie filled and manipulative tripe, so just Google for “The Rules” if you really want to read the worst of the worst crap). I do recommend that males take the time to read these books as it will provide a perfect (and best selling, mind you) example of how women are trained to believe that males are incapable of providing, deciding and being dependable. These “Rules” instruct women on how to catch a man and through manipulation entice him into a marriage that is based entirely on lies and deceit. My concern, is that as women grow from childhood though adulthood and then into parenthood these stereotypes are force fed to their male children creating generations of men who believe that “Al Bundy” from “Married with children” is not only an acceptable personality but that it is actually desirable.

2. Women are pathological liars

This comes not from some inherent internal flaw that exists in the female genome but is another example of the training that has been used through the years to brainwash females into what is now an acceptable and standard practice when dealing with men. Because men are so easily confused by maps and how to put their pants on, women are required to lie to men in order to get them to be productive. Rather than teach women to be honest and express their desires and feelings, they are taught that any show of emotion is a weakness that men will exploit for their own benefit. Women now enter into and maintain relationships where they are truly not happy because they are forced to hold their thoughts and feelings inside and use deception in order to achieve the outcome they desire or the outcome they believe they should have regardless of whether this outcome is either fulfilling or truly desirable.

This training is completely unacceptable in my opinion and is just another catalyst to the high divorce rates that exist in today’s world. To attempt to train an entire sub-group of modern humanity that deception, manipulation and lying are acceptable and required traits when dealing with those we wish to have a relationship with, is as much a crime as instructing your child that stealing is ok and that everyone is doing it.

Each woman is personally responsible for her actions in furthering this tactic, and as I see it are the ones that will primarily have to deal with the results. Unless women make a conscious decision to ignore the tripe they have been force fed from childhood and embrace a more honest, and as a result spiritually filling, existence then as more and more men grow up into the stereotypes that they are being portrayed as, women will find it more difficult or nearly imposable to actually find a truly desirable mate.

3. Women both seek out dominant males and fear a dominant male

There is a social yin and yang that exists in society that is clearly at odds with most females personal desires when it comes to a mate. In general, women desire a man who is dominant and capable of providing for her and the family while being internally torn by the ideals that have been falsely implanted into them. When women begin relationships that are more then just sexual pleasure they have been attracted to this male based on desirable traits. On one hand a strong, dedicated and dominant man is the ideal mate but the relationship will quickly turn into a power play with the end result being the very traits that were attractive, being striped from the male. Women expend a huge amount of effort to attract this desirable man into a relationship, once the man is in the relationship an even larger amount of effort is expended in an attempt to keep the man in the relationship. Both of these are acceptable and expected actions however the next step is clearly self destructive… Women, when they have the man in the relationship will then begin to needle away at the mans ego and strengths, until what they end up with is a husk that has no desirable attributes. This behavior is built from the very internal fear that woman have of a strong and dominant man.

Society has taught women that dominance is something to be feared and eradicated at nearly any cost. Society is filled with people who are incapable of seeing that a balance can exist between dominance and submission, that leads both people being happy. Women are trained that dominance cannot exist without one person being placed forcibly into a position of servitude. This dominance cannot exist without the other person being striped of their own personalities and desires. Dominance in today’s world is seen as indistinguishable from of an abusive personality type. Surely, no person would willingly submit to the authority of another human and when this happens clearly, the poor woman is in an abusive relationship and must be saved.

These are false and narrow minded restrictions that are placed on terms used to describe traits in males. For the majority of people in today’s society they are unable to differentiate an abusive personality from a dominant personality, simply because there are a few minor similarities between the two. It is my personal opinion that what separates a dominant personality from an abusive personality is mental illness. Each personality should be dealt with on a case by case basis but this is not what has happened. Rather then treating an abusive personality as a mental illness and dominance as a desirable trait, they are both clumped together in the same category because there may be a few, although minor, similarities in the personality profiles. This is the same society that glares down at jealously and sees it as an unacceptable and dangerous emotion rather than accepting that the only people who become that dangerous in the grips of jealously are the same people that already have existing mental stability issues. Rather than attempt to differentiate and understand either dominance or jealously, they are both just treated as dangerous warning signs and are met with scorn and hatred. Has society become so bitter towards our existence that all emotions and traits need to be eradicated simply because there are a few fucking wackos that are mentally instable? Next time some gunman takes pot shots at innocent people while laughing, are we going to label happiness as a dangerous trait that must be eradicated? Don’t believe me? Try getting on an airplane while being extremely happy and see how far past screening you will get before they pull you aside for a “personal conversation”. Emotions and personality traits should be understood and embraced, not discarded and ignored.

Even the most simple dominant traits displayed publicly by females in society are deemed as acceptable, while the same traits displayed by males can easily be punished by forced “anger management” classes. Why is it acceptable that females in today’s society are allowed to be dominant, while the males are punished for the same traits even when there is no violence attached to the display of dominance?

Why I am happy to be a “unreasonable man” and always will be.

This is not a point in the list but is an explanation of where this article originates from. I am a picky person when it comes to my core values and I refuse to compromise. I have lived long enough with my traits being systematically attacked in nearly every relationship I have entered into. I am a loving, gentle, caring, providing, honest, intelligent and dominant man and I refuse to compromise these traits based on some propaganda meant to belittle men as a whole. After being made aware of the systematic attacks taking place on the personalities of males, I made a conscious decision not to allow these actions into my relationship. My girl is not a captive in this relationship, she is a happy and willing participant. I have made my intentions in the relationship clear and have never swayed from my dedication to being in control of where we go. Long ago I decided that this life is mine to live and direct and anyone that wishes to join along on this journey is welcome. However, anyone attempting to take control of the steering wheel will be left behind.

Surrender4love has grown much in the short period that our relationship has existed and I trust that if she were to decide that she no longer wished to ride along with me she would leave the relationship as a better and wiser person than when she entered into the relationship. Both of us have learned a lot about ourselves and society in general during our relationship and I feel that we have both taught each other a lot. If the relationship were to end, I feel we are both better people than when we started. She would be greatly missed but she is not a captive and can leave at any time she feels the need to. I have explained to her that if she made the decision to leave there would be no hard feelings;though, she would be missed dearly.

It all comes down to me being an unreasonable man. I have decided where in life I am going and how I am going to get there. I will not allow anyone to compromise my ideals and will no longer sacrifice myself for the sake of a relationship. I will not be manipulated by someone entering into my life no matter what their views on males and dominance might be. During our relationship I am sure more females will come and go, coming when they feel it is time and leaving when they feel they need to.

No matter who comes or goes I will keep my integrity and be truthful to myself, and by today’s standards and by “The Rules” this makes me an unreasonable man.

So be it. This unreasonable man is going to bed and taking his girl with him. Perhaps, tomorrow she will tell you the advantages of being with an unreasonable man. Till then, I will make her do unreasonable and dirty things.

~~BloodLustDaddy~~

According to social services, she lives in “total submission” to her husband and male relatives including her father and brother-in-law. Click here to read full article over at the Scotsman News online.

Now, when I first saw the headline: Burka-wearing woman denied citizenship for being ‘submissive’, I thought that surely this must be some kind of joke. You know, maybe a case of sensationalizing a headline just to get people to read it but nope, it’s true.

Granted, the submission in question is due to religious beliefs but I feel that it is still pertinent to the lifestyle choices that we make in living D/s. It’s absolutely ridiculous to me that a governing body has the right to tell a woman she is too submissive. Historically, a woman’s role has been forcibly submissive within society up until the sexual revolution. I think that in this case it is more of a religious issue with France not wanting to give citizenship to Muslims and that the woman’s submission is just a scapegoat for them in that regard.

I couldn’t imagine my local government here in America denying me any rights because I was too submissive. If anything, in America woman are denied more for being forced into independence than submission and society plays more of a role in that than the local government does. I’m looked down on for being owned in society. Looked at as less than a human being, an object that people must feel sorry for and try to liberate because I cannot go anywhere or do anything without permission from BloodLustDaddy.

People stare when I go out, like they did today while grocery shopping. My hair up in a pony tail and my collar clearly showing with the metal screws in the back; there is no mistaking my collar for a necklace anymore since he made a new one for me. Family members get irritated with me because I cannot just pick up and do random shopping trips with them or just go out with them in general. One family member has even started asking BloodLustDaddy if I can go out instead of coming to me because it became too much of an issue for me to tell them “I don’t know if I can go, let me check with BloodLustDaddy.” And going through all of this is okay. I made the choice to be submissive to BloodLustDaddy because I trust him with every aspect of my life. I am submissive by nature and being in a D/s relationship with him 24/7 allows me the freedom to be simply who I am.

~surrender4love~

The dilemma that I had while choosing what material would encircle surrender4love’s neck is the social environment we live in. As much as I would have loved to wrap a thick piece of metal with a huge padlock around her neck, proclaiming to the world that she was owned in more ways than just in a relationship, it did not fit into the type of community we live in. I choose to go with a thick spiral chain necklace from Bico Las Vegas (chosen and placed on her neck while we were visiting Vegas on a holiday). I removed the clasp from the necklace and replaced it with some small chain links in the back. There are times when we go out of town and I want her to wear a collar that is thick and draws attention, during these times I place her pink “love” leather collar or the red/brown thick leather collar around her neck.

Already I can see the comments regarding my choice of using the vernacular “her collar” so let me clear that up before we continue: The collar belongs to me but I do not wear the collar. I choose to say “Her Collars” because they are collars that are to be worn only by her. Only I may place the collars around her neck and only I may remove them, she never has any say as to the collar she will wear on a given day, the decision and say are mine.

Recently I was searching for a new collar as the old one has become a tad weak in the back, the years of yanking and pulling have taken their toll on the metal. As much as I would love to say that I chose one of the excellent Pattern Wire Collars from Chaotic Creations or a Turian Stainless Steel Slave Collar from the House of Collars, this is not the case. I chose to make a collar out of metal cable and a spacer with some small screws drilled in to hold everything together. I chose the handmade approach not because I am cheap but because I felt that for a while wearing a collar that draws attention will deepen and enhance her service, something that is clear and visible to those in the outside world will keep her very conscious of her status in the relationship.

In the future weeks perhaps she will receive a nice pretty collar, only time and service will tell. How the local community takes to her new collar is another issue altogether, this is really something that truly looks like a collar and is hard to mistake for a necklace. I am going out on a limb considering the religious social setting that exists around us every day but its something that I feel needs to be done.

~~BloodLustDaddy~~

Rule #1 : My way may not be the best way, the fastest way or even the correct way but it is the only acceptable way.
Rule #2 : “No” is never an acceptable response to a command that is given.
Rule #3 : Do as I say.

Three rules keep things fairly simple and are easy to enforce. If I say the entire bathroom is to be cleaned with salt water then it will be cleaned with salt water. I know that salt water is not the best cleaner in the world but that is not the point and discussing it takes time away from cleaning the bathroom with salt water. (Notice: this is a lame example as I would never demand the whole bathroom be cleaned with salt water, tooth paste is much better… *insert evil laugh*)

With the rules out of the way the rest of my girl’s existence comes down to commands, expectations and experiences. Commands are the easiest to follow, when I command that tonight her hair is to be in a pony tail she knows what she needs to do and that if she does not do it punishment will be had. Expectations are a bit tougher but normally come with advance warning… when I get in the shower at night she knows that I expect to have my clothes placed next to the towel for when I get out, it’s not a command or a rule, it’s an expectation. If for some reason my clothes are not waiting for me she knows that she will not suffer a punishment. However, where my expectations are not being met it can quickly become a command with punishment expected upon failure.

Experiences, these are the ones that are hardest to follow but have the most pronounced triggers… when walking in the door from work if I look at her and say “kneel slave” experience tells her that until further notice she has been instructed to keep quite, be pleasing on the eyes and do as I instruct with no questions or complaints.

As far as rules go the closest thing we have are long standing commands:

• Panties are not to be worn unless her cycle has started.
• She is to instruct me as soon as her cycle starts.
• She is never to place herself in a dangerous situation.
• My needs come before any one.
• If a man hits on her she is to respond with “I am sorry, I am in a dedicated relationship.” and walk away.
• Masturbation is not allowed without permission or instruction.
• Orgasm is not allowed without permission or instruction.
• Profanity is not allowed and will be punished by having her mouth washed out with soap.
• If I am at home she is not allowed to answer the phone or door.
• When I come in the front door she is to present herself to me.
• The collar is never to be removed by anyone but me, except in a health emergency situation.
• Her journal is to be done every night unless otherwise instructed.
• She may not sleep with another person without my prior knowledge and permission.

The above are not rules because situations happen that may result in the need to break these. If someone attempts to drive her off the road a “fucking asshole” screamed out the window would be acceptable. If she is in the bathroom due to food poisoning then I would prefer she stay there rather than attempt to follow some “rule” to the detriment of her health, the carpet and perhaps any guest that I may have brought home.

Another thing that tends to surprise others is that we give no stock to “limits” but instead deal in probabilities, which can be hard to explain. I consider limits to be a challenge of sorts. When someone says to me “I can’t do that” or “I won’t do that” I have to wonder why. Are they truly unable, is it a health issue, is it taboo or a religious issue? Already we have advanced past many expressed limits as we have grown spirituality, mentally and emotionally. I can not say that there exists a hard limit in my life. I tend to be willing to try anything once (except for hard drugs) and limits just tend to get in the way of our ability to grow. The issue I see is not that we have a list of limits in our minds but that we do not update that list of limits as we grow and as our experiences change. What sort of life can you live when you are limited by things that you found undesirable several years ago? Because of these issues we have agreed to rid our relationship and lives of limits, hard or soft.

To replace limits we have enacted a probability standard. There is a high probability that we will engage in bloodplay in the next three months but a low probability that I will order her to give a homeless man a blow job in an alley in the next three years. Not to say that tomorrow won’t have her blowing “Homeless Homer” but probability dictates that it’s not very likely to happen.

Thus we have removed limits and most rules from our relationship and lives, we feel this allows us to grow without being held back by artificial expectations that may have been established prior to us reaching where we are now. Many limits are caused by personal experience in the past or taboos that have been dictated to us by society. Why should we limit our lives because someone in our past told us that having sex in the middle of a park on the 4th of July was unacceptable in society? A good example of a false hard limit would be when we began our relationship, due to past experiences she had endured smacking her face was a “hard limit” and now that we have grown it has become a somewhat regular expectation during sex.

~~BloodLustDaddy~~